iSavta | 02.02.2021

When you are taking care of the elderly, it’s almost the same as taking care of toddlers, they say. That means it involves a lot of emotions such as frustration, anxiety, and sometimes, Anger.

Anger is normal as it is part of being human. We tend to get angry at times when we cannot control something or we are frustrated with ourselves. But when anger becomes a problem, that’s when you need to know how to manage it. Or else, it could affect your judgment, your reasons, or worse, the people around you, and your job.

When you feel like your anger is already out of control, it’s time for you to sit down and contemplate what’s happening with your life.

Here are our 5 effective tips on how you can manage your anger:

 

1. Identify The Source of Your Anger

It may be difficult to identify the usual point of your anger because of so many responsibilities you have as a Caregiver. Plus, you also have some responsibilities back home because there are people who are also dependent on you even if you are a thousand miles away from them.

You may sometimes wonder why you become too upset with your patient if she’s did something where in fact, it was totally normal for an elderly person to do such a thing. You project your anger towards your patient but it was actually something else that you are upset with.

The moment you identify the source of your anger, you will be able to find a way to get yourself out of that situation or feeling.

 

2. Count To Ten

If you find yourself lashing out when get triggered, it’s time for you to learn this tip. Count to ten may sound so childish but it can totally help you manage your anger by giving you ample time to assess the situation and decide how to react appropriately. Stepping back and counting to ten is being used as an anger management strategy for a long time and it works. While counting to ten, you also have to take a deep breath to calm your nerves and collect your thoughts slowly.

 

3. Cry it Out

It may sound sad and upsetting but anger should be released but not by lashing out and hurting someone or yourself. Crying actually helps you release those emotions and would eventually make you feel better.

 

4. Be Direct

After crying it out, it’s time to convey your emotions through words. Express your concerns calmly, firmly, and direct. Turn your anger into something productive. Anger is sometimes good because it is an acknowledgment that you are being mistreated and there is something in your surrounding that you do not like. It is a chance for you to express yourself and contemplate what to do to get you out of that toxic environment.

 

5. Empathize

As Caregiver, you must lead with empathy. Putting yourself in some else’s shoes is the best way to open your mind and react appropriately. It is difficult especially if you are already full of emotions. But think about the consequences of your actions and what the other person might feel if you lash out.

 

Anger is something that we consider normal in any circumstances. A little sorry could sometimes appease a troubling emotion. But anger is also something that we shouldn’t take lightly. It is very dangerous if you cannot manage it. Especially if you are taking care of someone who, of all people, needs understanding, kindness, and a whole lot of patience.